Proverbs 27:17 Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend [to show rage or worthy purpose].
There are two kinds of relationships - vertical and horizontal. Developing a healthy and solid relationship takes time, commitment, and honesty. Many people have friends that are really designed to be life leeches and not life builders. Many people receive counsel from people that may have questionable motives. Most of the times the motives of someone in your life aren’t made clear until troubles arise. You don’t need friends that will baby you and encourage you to be anything less than what God has ordained for you to be.
Real friends will challenge you to step up to a higher level in life and to be a better person. A real friend will have your best interests at heart even if that means going contrary to what you think or feel. A real friend will sharpen you and make you strive to be better. You can identify real friends (horizontal relationship) when you have a strong relationship with Christ (vertical relationship). You’ll be able to spot a person’s motives from a mile away. You don’t have time to spend on relationships that are designed to work against you. You are in pursuit of what God has ordained for you and can not afford to be distracted.
Leeches are there to suck the blood or life out of you. When you talk to them you feel completely drained and your passion fades. They are always sowing seeds of doubt in you and always making an effort to kill your dreams. Real friends will help you to enhance and think through your dream, but will never kill it. You must pray for God to give you the spirit of discernment because you don’t need leeches, you need life builders.
One thing is for sure…in this world we will encounter various trials and tribulations. Jesus said that we should take heart, or in other words be mindful that He’s already overcome the tribulations on our behalf. We get to choose how we will respond to trouble. Since, Christ has already won for us, our tribulations can only be harmful to us if we let them. Choose to respond with a smile and a positive attitude. Whatever you’re seeking is what you’ll find. Negative people always find the negative. If He never sleeps nor slumbers, there’s no need in both of you staying up and losing sleep. Choose a positive response and say “My God has already overcome this for me, so I will rejoice!!”