Bishop's Blog

Here’s a relationship question that came in that I wanted to address -

I was listening to your show the other day about advice from men to single ladies waiting to be found…I have experienced just recently, alot of men coming at me telling me they love me or I’m the one for them, etc. Now I just got out of a relationship that he told me the same things and I believed him though it was all lies. After talking to these individuals a little while they start trying to talk about sex. Now my question is….Would sex be a topic for conversation when getting to know someone? I ask because it seems to be a topic that comes up with every man that has approached [me]. Would a serious man of God bring that up in a conversation or is it he probably has an alternative motive?

GREAT QUESTION!!! Generally, for Christians, sex shouldn’t be a discussion that’s had too early in the early stages of getting to know someone, ESPECIALLY in the first 90 days when you’re still in the “ecstasy” stage of a relationship, which means your mind is not able to distinguish things properly because you are still in the stage of thinking everything smells and is good. If someone brings sex up early in discussions, it’s revealing a motive to you. Unfortunately, many times in the Body of Christ we don’t talk about dating and relationships and answer questions like this and so people are unprepared to handle issues like this…

The key in dating and relationships is to pray and ask the Lord for discernment AND that when God shows you something you PAY ATTENTION. There are many times the Lord will show you something, but you may not be willing to pay attention to it. If the Lord allows you to keep being confronted with the same thing, it could mean that somehow there’s some lesson that still needs to be learned so you don’t have to keep repeating the same test.

Here’s a golden key - when dating, LET THE OTHER PERSON TALK!!! Don’t be so quick to do all of the talking, let them reveal what’s really inside of them and they will!